The Importance Of Staying Connected With Your Emotions (Issue #63)

Dec 15, 2024

He has become so disconnected with his emotions, he lost parts of his emotional body. Or maybe it’s concealed in the darkness of doubt or in the belly of fear.

The Creative Blanket

If you’re reading this, you likely have an interest in creativity as a blanket topic—your creative interests and pursuits live under the blanket. The intriguing aspect of the Creative Blanket is its vastness—it covers the entirety of the universe.

In contrast to its unfathomable size, humanity has limited access to the threads of the Creative Blanket. However, every effort to acquire more threads of creativity leads to valuable progress, discovery, and steps towards your higher creative self.

Once you collect threads of creativity, you have the opportunity to weave them together and create meaningful fabric. That is how creativity operates: you explore and experiment with ideas and then connect them in new and unexpected ways. We do this to create personalized meaning, which in turn, can create universal meaning.

Creating meaning also involves disassembling the threads that formed meaningful fabric—this is done in pursuit of deeper meaning. This can also be done if what was created wasn’t meaningful fabric, but instead fabricated meaning. In other words, the pursuit of meaning is the acquisition of skills to discern truth and falsehood.

And so, to discover and preserve your own truth, you must learn how to communicate your needs, both to yourself and others to create pathways towards a truth-filled destination. You can achieve this through improving your connection with your emotions.

What Is Emotional Literacy?

Our emotions serve as a guide and inform our decisions. Some important decisions include avoiding danger, finding a mate, pursuing interests, and repairing a relationship—the list is endless. Our emotions are filled with data that are created in response to an experience had.

By reading the signals our brain and body send and acting on them, we increase our chances of creating a favorable outcome, even if it takes time.

And so, being emotionally literate means recognizing when you’re experiencing an emotion, identifying it specifically, and then communicating a path toward goal development or conflict resolution.

Why Do We Need Emotions?

We must remain connected with our emotions or we risk becoming trapped in harmful relationships, limiting beliefs, or a fixation on the past or future.

Think of emotions as notification pop-ups on your phone. You can either disregard or click on them to track what exactly the notification is trying to communicate to you. And when you can track the source of conflict, you can then plan to resolve it.

Emotions Make Us Human

People crave emotions—to experience their own and connect with those of others. This shared emotional experience fosters a sense of unity and allows us to feel human. This desire is clear as day through the arts.

Music is one work of art that exists worldwide; music is a trance-like expression of strong emotions—it pulls the listener into the story of the music and even closer to the creator of the music where listener and creative become one.

Music tells a story that someone will find “relatable”. We long for someone, anyone, to resonate with our lived experiences. And when we do find that someone, it can feel like we’ve found “our tribe”. At long last, we can fit in and no longer feel like a lesser human being. That is the sheer power the arts as a whole offers in connecting people to the emotions of humanity.

Collectively, art offers a vast space and escape for creatives to express their needs and wants in any way that feels right to them. It is no surprise then why engaging in art can feel “therapeutic” to many.

If someone is seeking a space for expression and relief, it may suggest that their current environment restricts their ability to express and communicate what lies within—indicating the presence of a "conflict goblin.”

Spaces That Restrict Emotional Expression

People are emotional creatures, existing on a sliding scale. The restriction of emotional expression is the restriction of being human. Many people fear to share their emotions due to fear of rejection and attaching emotional expression to weakness. This creates the conflict goblin.

In other words, many of us were conditioned to bottle up our emotions because they were seen as “childish”, forms of ingratitude, and a “waste of time”. And so, it is no wonder why so many of us struggle to connect with our emotions and be vulnerable as needed with our loved ones. Our environments were not safe enough to do so.

This can cause a disconnect between us and our emotions, where instead of addressing the emotions head-on, we are stuffing them as far as possible into the closet of our unconscious, hoping the “out-of-sight, out-of-mind” mentality will do the trick. It doesn’t.

From Emotional Baggage to Emotional Explosion

The emotions we stuff in the closet become “emotional baggage”; this causes the conflict goblin to grow in size and power. And as it grows the closet will swell. It will get to a point where your closet will reach max-capacity and…boom! Fireworks.

Out comes an emotional fireworks, shooting missiles at anyone within hitting distance. The result is widespread injury and deep regret. You hurt those you love, often with words, although it can also be physical. This leads to ruptured relationships, and in some cases, the complete abandonment of a bond.

And so, this is why it is important to find a safe and non-judgmental space so you can express and communicate your emotions in a way that calls for conflict resolution, not conflict expansion. So the question then becomes, “How DO we create inviting spaces for ourselves and others to freely and fully express and emote?”

👉🏾 Find out on the next issue of, “A Unique Space For Unique People”.

If reading this article inspired you to improve your connection with your emotions, then you have earned yourself additional EXP. Assess where you are at in your journey and reflect on next steps to help you reach the next level. Feel free to email me or include in the comment section below.

Your next step could be to share this article, and share your knowledge with the next person, so they can contribute in denting the walls of mystery; it is a collaborative effort that will ultimately unveil a little more of the mysteries of the universe.

EXP Breakdown (Level 1):

Incoming Student of Life-100 EXP
Gardener of the Mind-100 EXP
Mindful Consumer-100 EXP
Impactful Story Teller-100 EXP
Fulfilled Imperfectionist-100 EXP

EXP Breakdown (Level 2):

Resourceful Giraffe-100 EXP
Hopeful Soul-100 EXP
Generalized Specialist-100 EXP
Gem Collector-100 EXP
Action Architect-100 EXP

EXP Breakdown (Level 3):

Experiential Notetaker-100 EXP
Mindful Tasker-100 EXP
Patient Observer-100 EXP
Confident Fisherman-100 EXP
Chaos Manager-100 EXP

EXP Breakdown (Level 4):

Intentional Creative-100 EXP
Creative Energy Wielder-100 EXP
Emotional Connector-100 EXP
100 EXP
100 EXP

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